What does that word mena? did I even spell it right ? My cousin uhambisa uMbondo on the 26th at some place called eDlangubo…What I understand of it is that, she along with her sisters and female cousins and friends take a whole gang of groceries to the husbands family. While I am not looking fwd to the gqams, I do hope, this involves singing and dancing…on our part.
Now usually I’d be against any form of traditional singing and dancing, but I think I’ve changed my mind about it.I watched YoTV yesterday -Wildroom or something and their guests were this rap group, Cold something. The theme for the day was a cultural one, the presenters were dressed in their respective cultural numbers. At some point there was a dance-off btwn the guests and the presenters and one of the guys from the group tried to giya…it was pathetic, he didn’t know how to do it properly. It was shameful.I felt sad for all our cultures, because they’re disappearing before our very eyes.Why is it so hard to keep up with the technology \western culture without completely being sucked into it? why cant we be computer literate and business savy and cultural at the same time? why must we abandon our identy for it? And why is only black people that let this happen?
I mean, the Indians do it ! the Chinese do it! They live such westernised lives yet still maintain they’re culture.They got Zen gardens at their penthouse apartments!They eat their traditional foods! are proud to wear their gear and perform their rituals! why do we CHOOSE to denounce our culture, our identities for that of the west? why are we …no…why am I so shy to dorn my gear and sing our songs and do our dance?? why am I embarrased to do that? I’ve think I’ve lost my cultural identity in this quest to become a 21st century superwoman. It is sad. I’m determined, though, not to let “the quest” become me.
And so I will start with this….. I’m going to embrace this Mbondo ceremony and will do it whole heartedly, I will learn and sing the songs with all the might my lungs and diaphram will afford me, I will do the dances like I know they should be done, my leg not quite over my head, but I will try. I’m gonna have fun with it, I’m actually quite looking forward to it now.